Twenty-five years ago yesterday, I had the pleasure of meeting Molly for the very first time. This may surprise some, but I vividly remember our first encounter. She walked in the room with a cute little bow in her stick straight hair and was quite inquisitive. “Who is that?” I overheard Molly ask my mom. “It’s your new baby sister. Isn’t she beautiful?” Molly looked over at me. “She’s okay I guess….” she stated. “But where’s her hair?...Are you sure it’s a girl?” “Yes, we’re sure it’s a girl” my mom told her with a smile. “Great!” Molly exclaimed. “Now I have someone to play with!”
Over the next few months, Molly became quite the big sister. She changed my diapers and refilled my bottles. Sometimes my diapers were on backwards and sometimes my bottles would be filled with diet coke, but I never complained. Molly was a great big sister. By the time I was up and walking, Molly became my leader and I, the follower. We were never apart. In fact, if I awoke early in the morning, I would always wake Molly first. Now, there is a certain skill to waking your older sibling up as Molly can attest to. First, you have to climb to the top bunk ever so quietly so as not to jostle her awake. Then, you quietly lean over her and hold open one of her eyelids. Not two eyelids, just one. Here’s the tricky part. Then you must wait until her eye rolls from the back of her head and say really loud, “Are you awake?” Keep in mind you should brace the side of the bed for she will fiercely try to push you over. Then, miraculously, she will get up! Works every time!
Besides spending every minute together, Molly and I shared everything as well. I can recall the time Molly had a piece of bubble gum in her mouth and I was salivating at the thought of having a piece for myself. I hovered around Molly like a helicopter and did every favor she would ask. “Bridget, move that box over here, I’m making a fort…Bridget, get Patty and Michael (our two cabbage patch dolls) and hand them to me. They need to be tucked in. Bridget…Bridget…BRIDGET!” For every request she had, I performed them without hesitation. Then, I slipped in my little request, “Molly…um…can I have a piece of that gum you are chewing?” Keep in mind that this is ABC gum…you know, already been chewed,…so to some, this may sound a tad bit gross. But to us, it was nothing! We were sisters and we shared EVERYTHING! “Sure!” Molly said in between her bubblegum smacks and chews. She bit off a piece of the gum and handed it to me. But this wasn’t any ordinary sized already bitten of piece of chewed gum. It was merely a speck! But, being the little sister, I eagerly took the speck of gum with the tip of my pointer finger and put it in my mouth. One chew and the piece was gone. I guess I swallowed it…I’m not really sure.
Not only did Molly and I share things like specks of gum or the occasional lick of an ice cream cone, but we also made a great team. One time, while jumping on our parent’s bed, (which was a strict no-no in our house) I heard a loud thud against the wall and Molly groan “Ow my foot!” We both bounced ourselves off the bed and looked at the wall. To my shock and horror, there was huge hole in it! Then…Molly coolly slipped in, “Bridget…look what you did!” I did an immediate spin and stared her straight in the face. “What do you mean ‘Look what you did?’ You’re the one that said your foot hurt!” Realizing that I wouldn’t fall for it, Molly said, “Ok…look what WE did.” There was no arguing with her at this point because we were both jumping on the bed so a punishment was inevitable. I took one for the team and we were both sent to our rooms.
In addition to acting as a team, Molly liked to lead by example. I love to reminisce of the times that Molly and I played together along the canals in Holland. On every outing, I happily skipped behind Molly and followed her every which way. On one particularly rainy day, Molly and I were at a local playground. We jumped on the swings, climbed the jungle gym, and swung on the monkey bars. Then Molly got the bright idea to play on the slide. “Are you sure?” I asked, “It looks a little wet.” “It’s fine. I’ll just walk down the slide so that my butt doesn’t get wet” she reasoned. At this point, I could kind of envision where this was going and I stood to the side to act as witness. Sure enough, no more than two steps down the slide and Molly completely lost her footing and banged her head HARD on the slide. She screamed, “Bridget! Bridget! I’m dying! Go get Mom!” as she held her head with both hands. I took off running and was sobbing uncontrollably because I was sure Molly was going to die. Half-way down the block, I heard Molly yell, “Bridget! Wait! I’m okay. I think I’ll live.” I’m quite sure my actions scared her more than the actual fall itself because she didn’t think I would actually run off to go get help. Because of her example, I now never walk down wet slides.
To cram 25 years of memories into one speech would mean that I would up here for hours, so instead, I have provided you all with a few highlights of some of my favorites. Now for the hard part:
Molly, you are my absolute best friend and I love you more than anything. I am so honored to call you my big sister and in turn, be your maid of honor on this special day. I have learned so many things from you, from learning to ride my bike to roasting vegetables. I thank you for everyday that you taught me to be a better person.
Ben, I couldn’t have asked for more wonderful brother-in-law. I seriously think of you as a sibling and like Molly, I’d be more than happy to share a speck of gum or take one for the team for you as well. Together, you and Molly share so many wonderful talents and you bring out the best in each other. Ben, I am passing on all of the perks that go with Molly: freshly washed laundry, a full tummy, and an organized house!
I wish you both the very best in your marriage and a happy, healthy life filled with many laughs and fewer tears.